Technology is way overrated
Sometimes when all modern technologies like social media, Google maps and GPS fail, you resort to manual labor. Had a surprising outcome today trying to do that.
Having failed to track down Anindya – my friend from my very early childhood days, today I went to the house that he used to live in the mid seventies (that I could best recollect).
A middle aged person came out, rather amused by my look (clean shaven heads are not that common in North Avenue of Durgapur). “Kaakey chai”? (“Who are you looking for”?)
I tried my best to explain the situation – “Dekhoon, prai chollis bochor aage, ei baaritey Babu boley ekta chhele thakto. Bhalo naam Anindya Sarkar. Kothay ekhon thakey jaanen? Ba ke boltey paarbey jaanen”?. (“You see, forty years back, there used to be a friend of mine called Babu who lived in this house. Also called Anindya Sarkar. Would you know where he is now? Or would you know who might know his whereabouts”?
You can only imagine my reaction when the gentleman replied “Aarey Bachchu, amakey chintey paarli na? Babuda rey!!! (“Bachchu, can you not recognize me? I AM that Babuda”)
He has lived in the same house for nearly fifty years. And I had been looking for him all over social media!!!!
Intersection points. Times two.
Thanks to modern technologies like FB and GPS and not so modern technologies like stopping a pedestrian and asking for directions, my brother and I last evening traced down another friend of mine from the early eighties – Kaushik Chatterjee!! I was fortunate to meet his parents as well as his sister who was visiting him. (His sister was all of five or six years when I left town).
Again, so many memorable moments of yesteryears were remembered in one evening that I cannot possibly jot them down.
However, the most enjoyed one was not about all those soccer games, cricket games, “pochisey boisakh” street drama events but a really hapless, sick streetdog was called “Tilka”. Kind of half adopted by a few neighbors – and by that, I mean the neighbors would yell for Tilka from the streets to eat some leftover food from lunch and dinner – this mutt was a common feature on the field during our games. And every winter around this time, she would have a litter of puppies that we – at that age – used to find to be the cutest thing ever!! Kaushik’s mom used to be very supportive of those puppies – offering rags, milk etc etc.
Speaking of playing cricket, uncle (Kaushik’s dad) had taken great sympathy towards us watching us play cricket with a bat that had outlived itself by a thousand years (those days parents buying us a bat was a rare luxury – there were way too many family priorities at every house before we could buy a bat) and unbelievably enough had actually carved a bat and three stumps out of a block of wood.
That “segun gaachher kaather” bat outlasted us and the next generation of kids from my neighborhood.
Thirty two years later, I am mature enough to understand his depths of empathy to prioritize our needs in the field over so many other things he had to do. Thirty two years later I got a chance to meet him face to face and thank him. I let him know I still think of that event as an example if why I should step back and create some enriching experience for kids!!!
An evening full of laughter…
Reignited one more “intersection point”. This time it was “Noton” – Debashish Chakraborty – my next door neighbor in our second house in Durgapur. Our houses were separated by a fence – part of it was concrete and part of it was wired.
Having known Noton during an impressionable part of my childhood – grades seven thru tenth (and then I left home for a residential school), I have some of the best memories of times spent together. Today, we laughed non stop for over an hour remembering some of the old incidents…
One of them was a project we did during a summer vacation. During a long day that summer, we hatched a plan – almost like Phineas and Ferb – on how to communicate with each other without meeting face to face. Not that in of itself, communication was an issue. I could yell out his name from my bedroom and he could hear me from his bedroom – the houses were barely 10 feet away. And in India, we always kept our doors and windows open. But it was about doing something nobody else had.
Also, it is important to remember that modern amenities like landline phones had not yet penetrated our town yet and mobile phones were yet to be discovered. In the end, after great trials and tribulations, we came up with a rather simple – yet what we thought in those days to be very elegant – solution. We tied a long nylon rope (that I had to get my mom to give me 50 paisa for to buy from Jhilmil – but that was the entire capital expenditure we had đ ) around two closest windows – one theirs and one ours. And in between, we had tied an ordinary match box.
The idea being, anytime we wanted to communicate, we would just keep pulling the rope on one side and the matchbox – with our missives put inside it – would gently make its way to the other house. Pretty much like how we pulled water from well – except we had a “closed loop” here.
That is not to say that it did not have its own engineering difficulties. For one, the closest line between the windows went over that part of our fence that was concrete. And the height was higher than the window points. This vexed us no end – since we often broke the match box as we tried to cajole it to jump the fence. Eventually, we ran out of our cumulative engineering prowess and called in “Tutu” (Dipten Sarkar – by the way, whatever happened to him??) – who lived a few houses down, was two years my junior and a genius at mechanical problems. Of course, genius as decided by seventh graders and fifth graders.
Tutu, true to his reputation, surveyed the situation and came up with a sophisticated solution. He put in an anchor point with a bent nail hanging upside down on a nearby tree branch and had one of the loops of the string run thru it. Brilliant!! Noton and I scratched our heads that whole afternoon why we could not solve it ourselves.
Then our next problem was how to notify that the other person was ready to communicate. We had to come up with essentially our version of a “telephone ring”. The ingenuity of our solution was exceeded only by our pride in the ingenuity of our solution. We took two empty small aluminum tins (empty Shalimar coconut oil tins – if anybody remembers them) and then tied them to the two windows – one each. And we had a segment of a new piece of nylone rope tied to one of them and ran it to the other window with a free end. So, all I had to do was write a message, put it in the matchbox, pull it till it reached the other window and then keep tugging at the other rope. That would get the tin on his side to repeatedly hit the window grill and create a ruckus worthy of calling a Roman gathering at the marketplace! In any case, a return clanging back would signify “Over and out”! (more like.. “message received loud and clear. more loud than clear” đ )
For all the breakthroughs in remote communication we achieved, our messages were particularly uninspiring and outright boring. “Ki korchhis” (“what are you doing”) would be the common message. We could have easily achieved that by take a couple of steps to our fence and yelling out each other’s names and asking that question. Or send some silly hand drawn pictures – an early harbinger of Instagram or Snapchat, perhaps. But it was not about the message ever!!
Soon, that contraption’s news spread far and wide. And by that I mean about six houses down on either side. There were more ambitious projects that we thought about – for example: going across from one side of the street to the other – but we were very afraid of the live open electric wires that ran on the interfering poles.
By now, you are probably wondering whatever happened to that invention of ours. Ah! well, we could not bask in our glory for too long. For every ingenious invention, there is an obvious blindspot that unwinds it.
You see, by inventing the “telephone-ring-by-a-tin-can”, we also unwittingly invented “highly-unwanted-calls-announced-by-a-tin-can”. Or the equivalent of those modern irritating marketing calls.
What I have been remiss in mentioning is that the window on Noton’s side was in his dad’s bedroom. That summer month, one afternoon, I sent a message (I forget the contents since the subsequent events overshadowed the message) in the afternoon at a very ill considered hour. Well, ill considered if you factor in that his dad was sleeping at that time đ
While all that tin clanging did not get the Romans to file into the marketplace, it certainly set in motion a set of events that had Noton filing into his irate and rudely awakened dad’s presence. Let me just say that that evening, after a sombre tete-e-tete, we both agreed that we had compelling reasons to believe that our inventions were way ahead of our times.
And the next morning, we decommissoned and deconstructed our project for that summer.
Simple times. Simple pleasures.
It was worth breaking my own rules!!!
âThere is a glass of wine with your name written on it hereâ, read the text message from Rupak. It was 9:30 at night. I had just finished up my work for the day. I was wondering what to do for the last thirty minutes before I hit the sack. I was certainly feeling bad that I had skipped the party Rupak and Jasmine had thrown to celebrate Rupakâs brother-in-law Swarupâs (who was visiting from Melbourne, Australia) 40th birthday. But I am too stuck up in my ways to eat late and sleep late. Plus Sharmila and the daughters were there in full force anyways.
However, Rupak – may his tribe increase – hit me at the right time. I was wondering what to do and I realized once I saw his text message that I had not had any wine that evening. So, off I went, throwing caution to the winds.
I was introduced to his sister Rupa and brother-in-law Swarup and their really really cute small daughters. I had spent most of the time with their 16 month old when Rupa showed us a special video she had made for Swarupâs birthday. She had done, what I thought, was a fantastic job in stitching together a lot of old memories of Swarup – right from his birth all the way to birthday greeting videos from his friends all over the world. I was really surprised by how well she had done it – especially while keeping it a secret from Swarup.
Finally, I spent some time with Swarup. As always, I tried to see if I can find some âintersection pointsâ. Of course, I had learnt a lot about his past from the video.
My opening shot was âWhich DPS in Delhi?â (DPS is the school he went to; there are multiple branches)
Swarup: âThe oldest one . Mathura Roadâ
Dead end đ All the ones I know are from RK Puram.
I remembered from the video that his first job was in Hind Motor.
Me: âSo, do you know Mr. I.R. Sharma?â (He was my high school classmateâs father; high up in Hind Motor management and I had met him a couple of times)
I again struck out. The timelines did not match.
And so the discussions went.
And then I remembered his engineering college.
So I asked him: âWhich batch?â
Swarup: â1995â
Me: âI see. By the way, would you know a Chiradeep Roy from your batch?â
Swarup (excitedly): âOf course. We were great friends. We used to eat together.. hang out together⌠how do you know him?â
Instead of answering his question directly, I told him âWaitâ. Then I fished out my iPhone photos and picked out an old scanned black and white picture. Zoomed in on one face and asked âDid he look like this?â
Swarup – after a few seconds – âYes. But he had glassesâ.
Me: âI know. This picture is 12 years younger than when you knew himâ.
And then I panned to another face in the photo and zoomed in.
Me: âDo you recognize this face?â
Swarup kept thinking.
I helped him a little. âImagine the hair is goneâ.
Swarup recognized!! âIs this you?â
âIndeed!â, I said and then panned to the rest two faces in the photo and added âand those are our parents!!â
âCHIRADEEP IS YOUR OWN BROTHERâ????? Swarup was just floored.
For the next few minutes, he kept on asking if he was my âownâ brother. A distant cousin, a relative⌠was more believable. But meeting the elder brother of your close friend from college twenty years later on the other end of the world from where you live⌠now that was an unbelievable coincidence.
See, this is why I believe in “intersection pointsâ.
Rupak, thank you for saving that glass of wine for me. I got to know my dearest brotherâs dear friend from twenty years back!!! It went down very well with that fine wine!!!
Sometimes the Mountain has to go to Mohammaad!
Got to meet Tathagata after what seems like ages. I was not on the road today, uncharacteristically. But he was. And he was traveling to Atlanta. So, we squeezed out what was supposed to be an hour meeting after 6 which turned out to be a 4 hour meeting. What a great time I had with this guy who I got to spend two months with during my fifth grade and then again, a few years in the same company twenty five years or so later.
The one time my dad did come to this country, he became a big fan of Tathagata because of his vast knowledge of Bengali literature, poems and culture. Both of us play the tabla although he is light years ahead of me. Picked up some good tips on how to improve my tabla.
There was so much to catch up on from our elementary and high school daysâŚ
Some of our discussions veered towards the philosophical – including being in the unenviable position of being the financial stability provider to a much larger family in India and the inevitable role of money around how it can completely queer so many otherwise near and dear relationshipsâŚ
I do not know too many people who is a star in a company like McKinsey and works as a professor in an University.
Hope to spend many many more hours with him in my life. There is a lot I can learn from him…
A story like none before!!
An inspiring meeting!
Had a brilliant time over a drink with Milind last evening after a full day’s worth of work. I had the opportunity to work together with him – nearly ten years younger to me – in i2 many many moons ago. There were some 10,000 employees that had worked at some point of time in i2. By my experience – and feedback from those thousands of i2ers who went and joined a lot of other companies – it certainly was an exceptional place in terms of an unbelievable number of really really smart people coming together under one tent with an incredible “whatever it takes” attitude.
Most all of them have moved on to other companies following great careers. However, I have always wondered whether we created enough entrepreneurs who would go on to start their own companies. For such an entrepreneurial environment, it strikes me as though we might not have had our fair share.
Milind is certainly the most successful entrepreneur I know of from i2.
Having created a company which, in its short history of seven years (last five have generated revenue) has reached an annual revenue generation of nearly $200M, he probably produces more revenue than all entrepreneurs from i2 put together.
What a great success story at such an early age.
We talked a lot about the challenges of growing and sustaining a company. The challenges of building coherent teams and a deliberate culture. Great discussions. Very inspiring.
Hope to see many more young men and women from my past create value in this world like Milind has.
Then he floored me with something.
I did not know this but early in his career, apparently he worked for a Swiss gentleman named Mr. Hertig who had moved to Mumbai and had created an eponymous company to make fine writing instruments and sell there. Milind has a few fountain pens saved from those days.
He had read about my fascination for fountain pens in a previous post and guess what? Since that day, he had saved a pen set for me waiting to meet me some day. That day happened yesterday!
Here’s to many more successes to you, Milind. So much so, that none of my fountain pens can ever finish writing about them!!!
Tuktuki !!!
Much delayed flight to New York. Reached after 9 pm. Of course, the first thought was why waste a perfect dinner on myself when there is always a chance to revisit an old intersection point?
Managed to wake up Paromita – little sister of my dear friend from high school and college days – Partho Roy – and we had dinner. (I did give her an advanced warning a few hours back).
She thinks we met last in 2003. Neither Sharmila nor I can remember that. I do recollect meeting her in 1988 though!!!
I found out that her dorm room mate from college days is none other than my own brother ‘s wife !!!
Also that she dated somebody from my team some twelve years back and I used to be a common topic of discussion for the date nights . (No points for guessing that it did not work out đ )
While ten years younger to me, I still asked her life’s lesson in a few words. Without hesitation, she said “Stand up for yourself”. She has no idea how closely I relate to those words…..
This is why I dig up my past…
Most of you are aware that one of my life’s missions is to keep in touch with people who have crossed my path long time back. I have been in many ways – perceptibly and imperceptibly, influenced by each one of them. Reconnecting with them – often after decades – is my way of thanking them for the opportunity I had to spend some time together in this short life. That, to me, is a reward in of itself.
Sometimes, though, there are awkward situations when a person cannot recognize me – in spite of giving vivid details. That is often frustrating and embarrassing. On the other hand, sometimes it is not only the case that I get the thrill of reconnecting with somebody from long past – but soon realize that I know somebody else that has crossed their path before and I put them together. That gives great satisfaction. One such incident happened this week. This email will always be there for me to read up every time I get frustrated following dead ends looking for my friends from the past…(names redacted to respect privacy; I will leave it up to them to identify themselves if they want to)
From: XXXX
To: YYYY; Rajib Roy <roy_rajib@yahoo.com>
Sent: Thursday, December 5, 2013 7:59 PM
Subject: RE: Re-introductions
Hey YYYY
Great to hear from you … wow what a small world! Smaller when you note that most of my school friends now know Rajib đ
Yes we should catch up – send me your phone # and will chat over the weekend.
Rajib,
Thanks for all the connects bhai. Suddenly feel I am part a long lost group that I was just unaware of.
Hi to Sharmila and bachcha log, and do look ZZZZ up when you are in DC next.
Cheers,
XXXX







