20 April 2025

This was the weekend of coincidences and intersection points

Sharmila and I hail from Durgapur, a small town in India. There were two separate weddings we got invited to on the same day this weekend. Both of them were of kids of two friends of ours. One in Dallas and one in Atlanta. Both of them are also from the same small town of Durgapur. And get this… both their mothers and our mothers – all four of them were teachers in the same school!

Sharmila got to attend one of them and I attended the other one.

Funnily enough, at the wedding I attended (the Dallas one), I ran into a guy who was Sharmila’s classmate in engineering school and I further got introduced to his wife. Who, we figured is the first cousin of our good friend Sudipto in Atlanta. To roll back time a little, before I met Sudipto in Atlanta in 2007, I had actually first run into him in my senior year in residential school – 1984. He was a junior in the same school and I used to meet him while visiting his roommate in his dorm. That other roommate was a junior of mine from Durgapur and we knew each other from the elementary school there.

To round up all the bizarre coincidences… that room mate junior I mentioned? He lives in San Jose, California and yeah, he was also there in that wedding in Dallas!!

My friends from America are perfectly justified in thinking that it is a myth that India has 1.5 Billion people!!

19 April 2025

The Pauls

Growing up in Durgapur, Avijit, Debatosh and I were the trio that were fairly inseparable throughout our school days. I got a chance to meet Avijit a couple of months back when he was visiting Dallas from Perth, Australia. Coincidentally, the other of the trio – Debatosh was also visiting Dallas this week from Bangalore, India. So, one more trip to Dallas had to be made,

The lady in picture is Sharmistha, my dad’s colleague’s daughter. Also my batch mate, we had become friends way before these two started going to the same engineering college and then dating each other. There is an infamous story about me sitting outside her house by the open drain while Debatosh went inside to talk to her and her parents. I will let Sharmistha tell you that story.

I think the three of us got under the same roof today after two decades or so.

In most cases where two of my friends have married each other, I get to be in a touch with them a little more… you know, there are two birthday calls a year that happen when I get to talk to both of them.

Except in this case, and keeping up with coincidences, both my friends were born on exactly the same day (and year)!!

It was a different kind of travel down nostalgia lane spending the day with them.

1 March 2025

Met an old friend today

I think I had met Wes in his office in New Jersey on my way out to Mongolia. We have kept in touch ever since. He was in Atlanta visiting his son in Georgia Tech and to put in his 25th marathon.

Since I do not run marathons any more, meeting over coffee was the next best idea I could come up with!!

19 February 2025

What a story!! (also, can you help this young gentleman?)

“Josh, my friend Roger mentioned about you. I thought I will call you and introduce myself.”

“Yes, sir! He mentioned about you. How are you?”

“Good, Josh. You know, we used to live in Dallas area too. Where exactly do you live?”

His answer dropped my jaw!

Noticing my silence, he piped up “Are you there, sir?”

“Oh, yes! yes!!”

Allow me to back up here. Two weeks back, when in Dallas, Roger had told me about this young gentleman standing behind him in a barbecue queue and he had struck up a conversation with him. The gentleman – Josh – was there DoorDashing an order. Roger thought it might be a good idea for me to get to know Josh.

“Josh, so tell me your life story. Where are you from?”

“Well, I was born in Ethiopia. I lived with my dad and step-mom. But my dad died when I was seven years. And that is when my life took a sudden change. I stayed with my step mom for some time but then I was sent off to my biological mom’s place.”

“Ok.”

“I do not know how to put this. But let’s just say, she was not the best person. My only way to escape from abuse was to run away.”

“You ran away?”

“Yes, sir.”

“To where?”

“Oh! I lived on the streets with other kids.”

“This is in Adis Ababa?”

“Among other places. We would jump onto trains and go to different cities and live on the streets there.”

“Well, then how did you land up in Texas?”

“One day, while jumping from train to train, I missed a step and got hit by a running train”

“What? Then?”

“There was an Australian doctor in the charitable hospital I was taken to who operated on me and was very kind to me. He helped me a lot. He even tried to adopt me. But Australian rules won’t let him do that since he was over a certain age. He then helped me find an American couple from Washington state to adopt me. Without that, with no legs and only one arm, I would have died by now.”

“Yes, Roger mentioned that you have only one limb. That is a fascinating story.”

His adoptive mother and sister had come to Ethiopia, picked him up and brought him to America. His parents did everything parents can do, as he said. He had never been to elementary school. Went straight to middle school in a foreign country and then graduated for high school.

Determined to make the best of his luck, he applied to a lot of colleges but could not get thru. He then tried the athletic route. Joined a wheelchair basketball program in Oregon. Trained very hard. Apparently, the coach was very supportive and helpful. With his coach’s guidance, he tried wheelchair rugby and excelled in it. Apparently, played at international level. In Team USA!

“You were in Team USA?”

“Yes sir! I played for USA in Under-17”.

“Wow!”

Eventually though, there was no career in that . He went back to studying. This time, got a break in University of Arizona. From scholarships, donations and working part time, put himself thru college. Two years into college, he transferred to UT, Arlington and finished his degree in Business a few months back.

But no jobs have been forthcoming. So, to make ends meet, he has started Doordashing. And that is how he met Roger.

“So, what do you want to do?”

“I want to be in investment banking. But I need to build up a lot of career capital – like Roger guided me. So, I would like to do anything in finance. But, of course, I will have a lot of learning to do. I just need a break.”

“I will see what I can do to help.”

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Oh! By the way, I forgot to tell you folks why my jaw had dropped earlier in the story. Let’s roll back…

“Good, Josh. You know, we used to live in Dallas area too. Where exactly do you live?”

“Everywhere,” he said with a chuckle.

“How do you mean?”

“I cannot afford a place.”

“Huh?”

“I live in my car, sir!”

“Wow!”

If you notice in the Zoom call I had with him, he has blurred his background, but you can see he took the call from his car. And he wore a tie to put his best self forward!!

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As an epilogue, I wanted to add this part.

I was checking in on him yesterday after a gap of two weeks. I was trying to get a feel for what his skills are.

“How good are your computer skills?” (I was a bit afraid of asking that. I was not even sure he had a laptop in his car)

“I think I am good, sir!

“How about Excel?”

“Sir, I think I am good. But I do not know how to compare with others. The other day Roger had asked me how I am in advanced Pivot Tables. I told him that I thought could do well. But then, I came back and looked up advanced pivot tables in Youtube. I went back and told him, I do not think I am as good. At least not as good as those Youtube videos”

I have to say, driving back from office, I kept the phone down after the call marveling at this young gentleman’s intellectual curiosity and intellectual honesty.

I have no doubt if he has come all this way, he will go a long way in his life. He does need a break here or there though.

So, that is the story I wanted to tell you. Would any of you folks be willing and able to help this gentleman? He is obviously not asking for charity nor money. Just somebody who is willing to take him under his or her wing to guide him in life and perhaps see if there are some starter jobs/tasks that gets him in his way to be an investment banker some day.

His expectations from the job is de minimis. He just wants to work hard and learn.

8 February 2025

One more of those surprises

The genesis of this story starts from our short Dallas trip last week when we met up with my best friend from school days – Avijit Bose – who was visiting his brother in law. At that time, I had enquired after his return itinerary and realized that he would be leaving for Australia from JFK the same evening as Sharmila and Natasha were to leave from India (also from JFK).

I was in New York for work this week anyways. I extended my stay to get a chance to see Sharmila and Natasha off to India. Their flight and my flight was scheduled to start at exactly the same time. However, Avijit’s flight was to start long after mine – so, I did not harbor any thoughts of being able to see him at the airport.

Besides, JFK is a huge airport with 8 terminals and you cannot go from one terminal to another without getting out of secured zone and taking a train.

An idea started taking shape when I found out this morning from Avijit that he was coming from Dallas to JFK by Delta. Dallas being the hub of American Airlines, I had assumed he would be traveling by American.

Quickly checked his flight and realized something. He is coming into the same terminal (4) as my departing flight. In fact, his international flight is also from the same terminal.

And that is when the plan was laid.

After seeing Sharmila and Natasha off at the security queue in Terminal 8, I took the train to Terminal 4, finished off all formalities and waited outside Gate A14. Finally, their flight pulled in and they were one of the first ones to get off. You can see them walking out of the plane as I took a few snaps from the other side.

Then I put the phone in my pocket, hauled the backpack and briskly walked up to them. And like I have done before to surprise others, brushed past Avijit purposely with an audible “Excuse me!”. Avijit instinctively pulled a bit aside as he kept walking. And I kept walking next to him. Staring squarely at him as he looked back at me.

One mississippi… two mississippi… and then it struck him!!

“Arrey, tui? “ (meaning – “Huh? You??”)

We grabbed together a coffee and had some laughs before they had to claim their baggage and do the international check in and I had to run to my plane!!

Another surprise pulled off!!

31 January 2025

Another intersection point

Following instructions, we had all arrived a bit early to the birthday party. The idea was to get together before Mita (whose birthday it was) could arrive and we would all spring a big old “Surprise” on her.

While mingling with the crowd and making new friends with strangers, I struck up a conversation with this young, handsome young man. After a few pleasantries, our discussion went something like this:

“By the way, I did not catch your name,” I said.

“Amit. Amit Walia.”

“Got it. Wait… Amit Walia? I have heard that name before. In fact that name came up recently….”. I was trying to rack my brains to remember where had I heard that name. (Later realized Mita had mentioned his name when Kushal and she visited us in Atlanta a few weeks back)

“What is your name?”

“Rajib”

“Got it…”

“You know, I am still trying to remember… I know that name was discussed very recently…”

And then he interrupted me.

“Wait, Rajib Roy?”

“Yes”

“Atlanta?”

“Yes”

And then in a few minutes we were able to put the whole thing together. Both of us were in school together – way back in the 70s. St. Xavier’s School, Durgapur to be precise. Amit was two years senior to me.

One of the advantages of my blogging all my life events was that I was able to take him thru pictures of all our teachers from the school. In the last decade or so, I have looked all of them up and visited them from Hyderabad to Ernakulam to Pune to Lucknow to Delhi… name the city and I have gone and visited them.

With each of the names, Amit was getting more and more animated as a lot of memories started coming back to him. Finally I gave him the contacts of a few teachers that he remembered the most and wanted to talk to.

Meanwhile, the birthday girl had started coming our way and we all switched off the lights and went silent in waiting.

I need to sit down with Amit again and go thru our school days in more detail.

5 December 2024

Wow! That was a pleasant surprise!!

It was the final leg of my trip to two cities while not being able to talk. I sat myself in my airplane seat and started checking all the emails from the day on my phone as the rest of the passengers kept boarding. I had already flashed my note to the lady sitting next to me that I am unable to speak. She had nonchalantly gone back to her knitting after reading the note.

A bit later, somewhat errr… chalantly, she tapped on my shoulder. I looked up to see that she was pointing my finger to somebody standing next to us. There was Hunt Jackson – smiling at me. We have worked together not once, but twice beore!! He was aware I could not talk. We had exchanged messages a few days back on his birthday. I smiled back, waved at him and mouthed “I did not know you were in this flight.” Soon, he had move with the queue as he went to his seat.

Back to emails it was. A few minutes later, a message notification came thru “Are you on a Delta flight from Denver to Atlanta right now?” My first reaction was to guess that Hunt’s message was delayed in reaching me. He must have texted me before he asked my next neighbor to call me.

Something struck me as odd – the sender’s name was rather small. In my contacts, Hunt’s name is written as “Charles Huntington Hunt Jackson”. Went back to the message. It was from “Amy Smith”!!! I know her from the place we had worked together before! And recently, we had talked at length during her birthday. (I was still talking then).

I furiously started messaging her back. “Why, yes! Are you too?”

She was. She had seen me. But was not sure if it was me. In her defense, we had not seen each other for over a decade.

“I should have called your name out when I passed you.” she wrote.

I explained to her that he might not have made a difference since I cannot talk. But I wrote that I will wait for her when we deplane.

Which I did.

We walked to the baggage carousel together, she filling me in on her new job!

It was so great to see Amy after such a long time!! I need to do this again though. There were a lot of questions I wanted to ask her but could not!

But, what is the chance that you run into two ex-colleagues in the same flight!

You want to hear the real coincidence? All three of us were in the same company once for some time!!!