16 July 2022

That picture is so reminiscent of times a quarter century back

The Aroras and the Roys had not had their progenies yet. Many a weekend lunch and dinner used to be spent just like that picture. Lot of laughing and a little of eating.

For the record, to explain Gagan’s face, I must admit that I had timed one of my jokes precisely at the time he had taken a mouthful of beer. He could neither spit it out (august company and all that) nor gulp it (for fear of choking while suppressing laughter – or worse, snorting the beer out). Had to laugh with a mouthful of beer.

If we had smart phones a quarter century back, I have no doubt, I would have had similar pictures from those days too!

Thank you Gagan and Bharti for driving all the way to the city, buying me drinks and then dropping me where my college dorm reunion was going on.

16 July 2022

The curious case of a camera bag

This weekend, I attended our IIT-hostel (engineering college dorm) get together in Seattle. I will write about that later.

One of those hostel mates who showed up was Ranga (Sampath Rangarajan, if my memory serves me right). He was one of the few that I used to be close to and I even got to know his parents and siblings. In fact, every year, I look forward to my conversation with his dad on his (dad’s) birthday.

This time, Ranga, always the enterprising guy was not only busy leading a lot of activities – dancing, hiking, antakshari (a type of song competition) – he was our lead photographer too. At least, he was toting his Canon DSLR and taking a lot of pictures and then dutifully uploading them on our group website.

No photographer myself, I still started talking to him about his camera with the modicum of knowledge I could muster from yesteryears. Eventually, I got curious about what all lenses and other paraphernalia he was carrying with him in his sophisticated looking camera bag.

And among various other photography related accoutrements, as evidenced by the picture, I found a bottle of Hajmola (look it up) and one of Tylenol!!

I guess it is a case of being better safe than sorry!

8 July 2022

Adapting to the new house

Jay Jay and I are now having to deal with the fact that we do not have our own private music room in this small house. Today, I tried a different approach. Sat on the swingset downstairs and listened to music on the bluetooth Beats.

Jay Jay showed his contempt at not getting any Pringles or being able to listen to music by hiding my other shoe! (seriously, I have no idea what happened to my other shoe)

8 July 2022

Closing the gates to our h(e)aven

Having closed the front door, there was one last thing to do. Shut out the property. Drove my car up to the gate at the top of the hill. First act was to de-program all the codes that would open the gate. Then put the gate in manual mode so that the new owners can set up their own automatic mode codes.

And then finally, pulled the gates manually closed. Thus the property was secured for the new owners.

8 July 2022

The unkindest twist of them all

The girls had left the building and gone back to the new house. Now it was left to me to do the final checks inside the house and then close the front door. Once and for all.

My fingers quivered as they approached the keyhole. A fraction of second of dithering. And then the final clockwise twist. The unkindest twist of them all. The click that forever consigned this house that was our home to the annals of The History Of The Roy Family. For once. And for ever.

8 July 2022

A sense of Deja Vu

It was eight summers back. My in laws were visiting us from India. I had the best time with my father in law. We used to sit outside by the pool with the Tiki torches around us and listen to music or talk about his early childhood and how he grew up. The pool was a special favorite of his. Many a day, I would come back from my work and find him in the pool swimming all by himself. He would even try to clean the pool and do maintenance of it by himself.

There was a very poignant moment during his last minutes in our house that trip. I was going to accompany them all the way to India to make sure they had a safe passage. The car was being loaded up in the driveway and everybody was saying their byes. Just before getting in, my father in law came around the car and took one last long look at the pool. I distinctly heard him softly say “Bye, Bye Pool”.

During the flight later, I remembered that moment and realized what that pool had meant to him.

This week, going around the house one last time to make sure everything was as they were supposed to be, I stopped at every room. It was less of I stopped out of my own volition and more of I could not move. It was like all the walls, rooms, closets, patios had taken lives of their own. I started having silent, mental conversations with them. “Remember how I used to play soccer with baby Nikita here?”… “This is where Natasha and I had put up her whiteboard”…

Looking at the trees, the bird feeder, the rocks outside triggered a lot of memories to flood by and I took as much time as I could to take all that in.

And before finally closing the yard fence, I too – like my father in law – had to take a long look at the family’s favorite spot and sigh under my breath – “Bye, bye pool!”

8 July 2022

This one is going to be difficult to get over

The curtains finally came down on a chapter of our lives that spanned over fifteen years. When we moved to Atlanta, we had taken a jump of faith and started a life of rural living. Dirt roads, septic tank, water from a well, internet on DSL, no neighbors and all that. The very first memory I have is the kids waiting outside for the fireflies to come out every night.

Looking back, it was a good decision to raise the daughters in such a sylvan, expansive setting. Yes, there was the occasional fallen tree that would block our road and the curious snake here and there making the girls scream and flee but that pales in comparison to the moments spent sipping on a cocktail on a hot summer afternoon watching the daughters jump into the pool after a barbecue lunch or listening to qawaalis with Sharmila by the outside fireplace on a cold winter night or playing volleyball and soccer with Nikita in the lawn or simply trying to outwit the hummingbirds, cardinals and other birds to let me take pictures of them surreptitiously.

But all good things have to come to an end. We are on the verge of empty nesting and have now put this house in our past. Leaving a lot of memories and the mortal remains of the family’s first pet dog in the property.

The new owners are a young couple and they plan to raise their kids here. I think the house will serve them in a much better stead than us now.

Meanwhile, we turn a new leaf in the chapters of our life.

8 July 2022

One last jump

About two hours before the house selling contract was to be signed, Nikita got this idea that she would go back to the old house and do her favorite thing one last time – swim in the pool. And to make it memorable, she was going to jump from the waterfall rocks – something Sharmila did not allow her to do when we lived there. Natasha took her there and took this shot of Niki jumping in the pool.

The sheer joy in her face says it all.

6 July 2022

The three of us got together after a long time

Anand, Sharmila and I knew each other before we had any kids. That is a quarter century back! In the meanwhile, Anand and I managed to work in three companies together!

He was in town for office meetings and swung by our house to meet Sharmila. I am fairly sure I did not drink that much but I was seeing two of him most of the time 🙂 🙂