27 July 2026

The friends you never see coming

One of the greatest joys of traveling is that sometimes you set out to discover a place, and instead, you discover a person.

I first met Aziz while wandering around the common area of the lodge looking for my host, Niu. I needed a power converter for my room but could not find him anywhere. Instead, this gentleman emerged from the kitchen and asked what the problem was.

As it turned out, he was not part of the staff at all. He was another guest, albeit a long-term one. He called Niu, tracked down a converter, and solved my problem within minutes.

That was the beginning of a wonderful friendship.

Aziz is from Peshawar, Pakistan, and is in Tuvalu for a year, working on a UNDP project. Before this, he had spent time in the Solomon Islands on another UNDP assignment. He looks at least ten years younger than he is and carries himself with the easy confidence of someone who is perfectly comfortable wherever life takes him.

Over the next few days, we found ourselves talking often. We spoke about his family and his two children back home. But what really connected us were two shared passions: music and books.

On my last evening, we sat by the water talking about qawwalis. We wandered through the music of Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Rahat Fateh Ali Khan, and the Sabri Brothers. Aziz, of course, understood every word of the Urdu lyrics and patiently explained the meanings that had escaped me for years. Had the island’s internet been a little more cooperative, we would probably have spent the evening listening to them on YouTube.

Books were our other common language.

He had often seen me sitting by the water reading.

“If you finish the book, leave it for me,” he had said.

I never did finish it. But before leaving, I handed him the other three books I had brought with me. Somehow, that felt like the right goodbye.

What fascinated me most about Aziz was the life he had built for himself.

He enjoys his own company. On moonless nights, he heads to the edge of the island to photograph the Milky Way. The pictures he showed me were breathtaking. He loses himself in books and music, helps guests around the lodge without ever being asked, and more than once offered to cook a meal for me.

Three evenings a week, he heads to the local bar to play pool with his island friends.

“And who is your best friend here?” I asked him.

“The scooter,” he replied without missing a beat.

I laughed.

As I left Tuvalu, I realized I was taking home far more than photographs and memories of a remote Pacific island.

I was taking home the memory of an unexpected friendship. Sometimes the people we meet for only a few days leave footprints that last a lifetime!

27 July 2026

The measure of a man

One of the unexpected joys of spending four days on a remote island like Tuvalu was getting to know my host, Niu.

He is barely in his late twenties, yet carries himself with a quiet maturity. He now runs the family lodge that his father started. The lodge is called NiuEti, named after Niu and his younger brother, Eti, who passed away at a very young age.

Life had more challenges in store for the family.

A few years later, Niu’s father, who is younger than I am, developed kidney failure. In Tuvalu, there is no dialysis beyond basic support, and certainly no possibility of a kidney transplant. Niu did not hesitate. He volunteered to be the donor, and fortunately, he turned out to be a match.

Finding a hospital was the next challenge. Even Fiji does not perform kidney transplants.

Eventually, father and son found themselves headed to New Delhi, to Fortis Hospital. But fate intervened once again. They had traveled to Fiji for preliminary tests before flying to India when COVID shut the world down. They ended up stranded in Fiji for two years. Thankfully, Fiji at least had dialysis centers that kept his father alive until they could finally make the journey to India.

Later, I had the pleasure of meeting Niu’s father. He could not stop talking about India.

“What do you remember the most?” I asked.

“The cars honking on the streets,” he said with a broad smile.

We all laughed.

Here I was marveling at the rooster crowing and the pig squealing in Tuvalu. And he was marveling at the cars honking in India!!

Over the next few days, the three of us had many conversations, ranging from life to business. One mystery was finally solved. I had always wondered why they had never asked me for a deposit when I booked my stay.
The answer was remarkably simple.

There was no practical way for me to send them money, and no practical way for them to receive it.

In Tuvalu, cash is the only way to do any business. And not Tuvalu dollars. Tuvalu has some coins, but they cannot afford to make paper money. So, they use Australian Dollars.

NiuEti Lodge receives some of the highest reviews online. Of course, everything is relative. Most visitors to Tuvalu are seasoned travelers who know that luxury is not the point of coming here. But what Niu offers cannot be measured by thread counts or room service. He is unfailingly kind, always ready to cook a meal at odd hours, help a guest solve a problem, or simply sit down for a conversation.

As I left, we promised to stay in touch.

The only practical way, of course, is through the lodge’s reservation email.

Some people leave you impressed by what they have accomplished.

Others leave you inspired by who they have become.

Niu belongs firmly in the second group.

23 July 2026

The same old Nats!

Nats and I first met in 1991 when we joined the same company on the very same day. Soon afterward, we discovered that the company had assigned us apartments literally next door to each other, along with a few other new recruits.

Lifelong friendships came out of that arrangement, but I was especially close to Nats.

That was largely because of his sense of humor. His timing, his choice of words, and his deadpan delivery have always been impeccable. He also had an insatiable appetite for books. I honestly do not remember ever seeing him without one in his hand.

I still remember one evening when the Harshad Mehta scandal had just broken. I was trying to explain just how enormous the amount of money involved really was to Srini.

I proudly explained to Srini that if we started throwing away one rupee every second from the day we were born, and did nothing else for our entire lives, we would have to live for about 140 years just to get rid of all that money.

Nats, who was closely listening, was suitably impressed by both my math and the absurdity of the number.

He paused for a second and asked, “Then, why throw away a rupee every second? We’ll pick up a rupee every second!”

I have no recollection of what we were discussing after that. I was laughing too hard.

Today was no different.

A full twenty-five years after I had last met him in Tokyo, he greeted me with exactly the same warmth and mischievous humor.

“Blood Indian of low origin, how are you?”

I burst out laughing right there in the hotel lobby. Instantly, a flood of long-forgotten memories came rushing back.

“So, what’s interesting in life?” I asked, as we settled down for breakfast.

“Nothing much. Still working. Trying to put food on the table,” he replied with a perfectly straight face.

“Only sambar and rice, though.”, came the quick rejoinder from him!

The breakfast that followed was spent catching up on his family in India and Australia, his life in Japan and now Australia, and everything in between. Every few minutes, another perfectly timed remark would leave me laughing all over again.

Too soon, it was time for him to head to the office and for me to pack and make my way to the airport.

Some friendships are built on shared experiences. Ours seems to be built equally on shared laughter.

I am really going to miss my friend. We understand each other in a way that is increasingly rare for me. I only wish we did not have to live on opposite sides of the world.

22 July 2026

Delayed by a Volcano, Rewarded with a Wine!

It was a cold winter evening 13 years ago when I showed up very late to a party at Rupak’s house. That itself was a change of plans, thanks to a perfectly timed text message from the host enticing me with a glass of red wine.

That evening, I met Rupak’s sister, Rupa and brother-in-law, Swarup. A bit of digging into his past later, I discovered that Swarup was indeed a dear friend of my own brother from their engineering college days. What were the chances of that?

Sharmila and I have been to Australia a few times over the years. We have visited Sydney, Brisbane, Adelaide, Cairns, Uluru, and even Hobart. But we have never made it to Melbourne, where Rupa and Swarup live, or Perth, where my childhood best friend Avijit and his wife Rakhi live.

This time, Melbourne was part of my plans. Things, of course, did not go smoothly, thanks to the volcano in Vanuatu.

But thanks to the extra effort put in by Swarup and Rupa, we did manage to get together. Coincidentally… over some red wine!

What a wonderful evening it turned out to be. If you had overheard our conversations, you would have been forgiven for thinking that we meet a couple of times every week. Such was the ease and familiarity of the discussions.

The topics, admittedly, were age appropriate. You know, body parts that hurt for no apparent reason, our children’s careers, retirement plans, financial investments, and all the other exciting things that advanced age has to offer.

This is what makes those insanely long-haul flights so worthwhile, after all.

28 June 2026

My Chess Rating Took a Hit. My Dad Rating Went Up.

One of the unexpected joys of having Nikita home this summer is that we get to squeeze in a game of chess most evenings.

Earlier this week, I told Sharmila that Niki’s game is steadily improving. Mine, on the other hand, seems to have reached a plateau. I told her it was probably only a matter of days before Nikita beat me for the first time.

Well… Today was the day.

For over an hour, we battled it out. In spite of numerary strength I had on the board, she outfoxed me with some quick left flank moves with a queen-rook combination.

I’m pretty sure this is only the beginning. Soon she’ll be beating me regularly, and before long she’ll probably start offering me “helpful suggestions” after every game. (Children can be wonderfully generous that way.)

Ah well! If we leave this world in smarter and more capable hands than we found it, we must have done something right!