A new cool friend!
If any one of you visit Dallas (or live there) and are looking for a nice wine bar, do not forget to go to Mercy in Addison. And make sure you meet my new friend Mike there. He made the evening for us and my business company absolutely marvelous. We found out that we both have a lot in common – stand up comedy, mixology and being sharp as a whip. Okay, okay, agreed that I extended the truth on that bit about me being sharp. But still two out of three is not bad!
Also, when you go there, do not forget to try a wine called “Lunatic”!
A stranger no more!!
Last weekend Sharmila’s friend Rupa had visited us from Dubai. On Sunday, I was dropping her at the airport and on the way we started talking about the concept of friendship – you know FB friends, school friends, work friends etc. At some point she talked about somebody called Sudeshna Das who now lives in Houston and that she was a friend of Rupa’s sister. The thought that went thru my mind immediately was that she must be then my sister’s friend (same batch). Anyways, after dropping Rupa at the airport, I made a couple of calls to friends in Houston to see if we could track down Sudeshna. As luck would have it, I was going to be in Houston within a couple of days for work.
As you can imagine, a little help from FB, friends and a few phone calls and I did get to meet a complete stranger – Sudeshna (frequently called Mou). Our common friend Subrata, his wife, Sharmistha and Sudeshna had dinner with me. We absolutely missed Tapan Das – Sudeshna’s husband who had to leave for Brazil that day.
The dinner started, innocuously enough, with two complete strangers meeting. By the time the evening was over, we found more intersections points than we could shake a stick at. I probably cannot remember all of them now but to cite a few – we already knew that she and my sister were classmates. Found out that her cousin – who has been very very close to her all her life – is a very close friend of my wife Sharmila. I knew Sharmila visited this particular lady every time we went to India – I just did not know the connection with Sudeshna at all. Then we found out Sudeshna married Tapan – who is a friend from college days of none other than Samaresh who I run with every Sunday morning here in Atlanta. Did I mention that Samaresh and I lived a stone’s throw away during our middle and high school days in India?
The conversation invariably went to our parents and their health. A little later when Sudeshna told me that her parents used to live in City Center ( an area in Durgapur), I became even more inquisitive. I asked her if she remembered any more details. She mentioned that she thought it was on Michael Faraday Road. I was like “Get out of here. Which house?”. She thought #20, but she was not sure. This was way too much coincidence. So, I asked her if she could call her mom in India. Which she did. And I took the phone away from her, introduced myself to her mom and asked her what was her exact house number when she lived in City Center. She confirmed that it was indeed 20. I asked her if she knew her next door neighbor. “Mamata Ghosh?”, she asked. “Absolutely”, I replied – “they are my inlaws. And they still live there!”. We were both very excited.
So, I asked her “Where do you live now”? I knew that they had moved to Kolkata since Sudeshna had mentioned this before. I did not know exactly where, though. Well, you are not going to believe this, they have moved right where my brother lives. In fact, you might have seen many pictures of me and my brother running on my blogsite right in front of their house!! As you can imagine, I made a promise to visit her and have tea with her next time when I am in Kolkata – which is a few weeks away. Reminded me of the trip to see Sanghamitra’s mom last time!
The evening started between two absolute strangers but in about an hour and half’s time, we realized that we had this huge network of connections in India and USA that tied us together. It was as if we have always known each other through these years.
We really really missed Tapan. I am sure I would find at least another set of connections. In fact, we never explored Sudeshna’s in-laws’ side at all!
That would be the agenda for the next trip to Houston!!! If Subrata and Sharmistha can deal with the boredom that is 🙂
Tit for tat!
Since he gets to sleep in our beds , it is only fair that we get to try his bed!! Jay Jay is not exactly amused though!
If you had any doubt that the youngest ones are always the most pampered ones…
Our first dog, Princess was never allowed to get up on chairs or sofas or any other furniture. She got trained very quickly to not climb up any of those stuff. For thirteen years, we have had no challenges whatsoever.
Now we get a new puppy Jay Jay and guess what happens? Not only is he being allowed to climb up chairs and sofas, evidently he is sleeping in our beds too! With full encouragement from the family members!!! Princess can’t believe what she is seeing!!!
Surprise! Surprise!!
Rarely do I make a trip to the Bay Area without once rudely barging into good old Aditi’s house. Most of the times it is a short half an hour stay just to check on her, Eric and their kids – Alexandria, Clark and Karma. Sometimes, I am lucky enough to run into her sister Ananya and her husband Blake too. Many times, I bring along my office friends along with me. Aditi’s family is like old family to me. It goes back way too many years for me to even try to remember. I think it all started in Benachity Junior High School in 1971 or something like that!!
The difference this time was that Sharmila was with me. Unfortunately, Nikita and Natasha dropped out (they were too tired after all the walks in the various college tours).
But the big difference this time was that Aditi’s dad and mom were visiting them. And Aditi and I had planned to spring a surprise on them. They had no clue that I was going to come by to meet them!! Aditi’s dad – I call him Dubey Kaku has always been a father figure to me. Many of my life changing decisions – Which Engineering college to go to? Should I study computer science or electronics? Should I go to US like the rest of my college mates or do what I wanted to do in India – study Business? … the list is long – more than my dad, I had turned to him during my early years of growing up. To me and my best friend Avijit Bose from those days, Dubey Kaku was our hero.
We missed Ananya and Blake – but certainly not the bottle of Pinot Gris they had recently brought from Mendocino Bay!!
By the way, many of you might remember him from an old story – where I had discovered that a local Atlanta friend’s grandmother and dad had once visited Dubey Kaku’s ancestral home way way back in time for some legal help from his uncle. You can read about that astonishing connection here : http://www.rajibroy.com/?p=6814
And you should have seen the surprise on his and Kakima’s face when they came back from walking the dog to find me and Sharmila sitting with Aditi and Eric. As you can well imagine, it was a magical evening to get to see good old Uncle and Auntie again. I was thrilled to find out that they are now US permanent residents and would be spending more time in the U.S.A.
Now for a final twist to all my complicated and complex interconnections and intersections…. You remember the story about meeting Sharmila’s friends this Sunday? http://www.rajibroy.com/?p=8103 You recollect how her friend Dipti talked about her dad’s best friend who was my best counsel all my life? Want to take a guess who that was? Same Dubey Kaku!!
Turns out Dubey Kaku and Mr. Srivastava (Dipti’s dad) were very close and often went to office together in the same car. And get this… Mr. Srivastava also has become a permanent resident of USA and spends a lot of time here. (Right now, he is visiting India). We all realized that these two good friends from long time back now live within miles from each other about a ten thousand miles away from where they used to ride together.
Would it not be awesome to see them ride a car together one more time? I wonder if I can finagle myself to be the driver of that car!!!
I am glad I decided to join Sharmila…
I am the one who is always making new friends and reconnecting with old ones when I am on the road. While in California, on Sunday, Sharmila had set up to meet an old friend of hers that she had not seen since 1988, I guess. I had figured I was going to take care of the kids as she met up with her friend and possibly the family. She insisted that I join her too. Which I did. And I am glad I did so.
Else I would have missed meeting a wonderful couple – Dipti and Sanjiv. What was supposed to be meeting two entirely new people turned out to be meeting two people with unbelievable number of intersection points. Let me see how many I can remember…
Dipti:
Turns out her mom and my mom taught in the same school for a few years. (Next day, my mom was thrilled to know that I met up with “Srivastava-dir meye”). Dipti and Sanjiv are both from the same college that my brother went to (couple of years later). Dipti’s dad was best friends with a gentleman who I have considered my best counsel all my life (more on that in a subsequent post!!!). Then Dipti talked about a Karthik Srinivasan – and I let her know that Karthik and I started our first jobs together in Bombay in the same project. And one by one those mutual connections kept on getting discovered!!!!!
Before I forget, the most impressive thing about Dipti – her attention to physical well being. You know, I feel good running up our street a bit here and there. She has hiked down Grand Canyon and up the next day. She has hiked from Cuscao to Machupichu – that is a 5 day hike! 5 days!!!
Sanjiv:
The big connection between Sanjiv and myself, we found out, was the supply chain world. He worked for a company that was once my customer. Then he worked for another company that was a partner and competitor for two companies that I had worked in. And finally, he has his own supply chain company. We probably spent half an hour just rattling off names and giving each other updates on our old colleagues / friends / customers etc.
Sharmila and I eventually realized that we were terribly late for a dinner invitation. We apologized and excused ourselves. As we were exchanging contacts before we split, Sanjiv sent me a LinkedIn invite. And looking at my connection list, his quick question was – “You know Deb Bhattacharyya”? “Sure”, I said , “in fact, it is his house that we are getting delayed for dinner this evening”!!!! That was another crazy connection point!!!
How time flies!!!
We got to know Kakali and Debashish in Dallas (they were there for a year only). But we bonded well as first time parents figuring out how to put diapers on our own month old babies. There is a hilarious story of how he concluded that girls were better shortly after being on the receiving end of … errr… should we say “point and shoot” mode of his boy while changing his diaper? 🙂
In any case, last night we met again (missed Debashish who is in India) and this time we are trying to make college decisions for the same diaper wielding kids!!
How quickly time flies!!
The good news though is that time has not affected Kakali at all. She was the same energetic, very funny, witty, full throated laughter person we knew from sixteen years back. And with her impeccable culinary prowess intact!!
We missed you Debashish!
How I lost all interest in Sudoku
First evening of spring break vacation. We got a chance to catch up with Sameer and Rajol. We used to live in Dallas many moons back and enjoyed quite a few sugar cane dipped Mojitos together at the Mi Cocina on Tollway. Eventually, they left for the west coast and we, for the east coast.
And we got together again after quite some time last night. Instead of Mojitos, it was some nice wine and the conversations spanned from raising kids to comparative religions. By the time, we got up, it was 3AM our time (midnight for them!)
In my near quarter century of professional life, Sameer has been one of those that has absolutely marveled me with his IQ level and work ethic. And his prowess over everything Excel. I think he can make Excel make coffee for him in the morning.
Which brings me to the story that we recollected from the long past. There was a time – probably a dozen or so years back – when Sameer and I spent quite some time in Munich working on supply chain problems of a leading semiconductor company there. After long days, on our train ride back from office to the hotel, I used to bring out the newspaper of that day and start doing the sudoku problem published there.
After a couple of days, we were stuck on one particular problem, when Sameer fished his laptop out of his bag and fired up Excel. I continued to struggle with the problem and he kept on twisting and turning his Excel. The following couple of train journeys it was pretty much the same scene. Then on the third day, he declared that he had worked all the kinks out. Apparently, he had a written up some Excel sheet and macros that would solve a sudoku.
I fed that day’s problem to this sheet and Voila! It had the results ready. I tried pushing it to the limits that day by withholding a few digits. The sheet would promptly tell me what my options are !! I was thrilled and somewhat incredulous. But it was very difficult for me to test it out – since making my own test cases would mean I would have to create my own Sudoku puzzles.
Next morning, I asked the hotel folks if they had some old newspapers. Unfortunately they did not. So, for the next few days, on our trip back, we would sit down in the train, I would type in the problem and we would make sure that the answer matched. And then for the rest of the journey we were forced to talk to each other 🙂
After a few more days of testing, the whole fun of Sudoku went away. The sense of “Oh! It can be done easily” seeped into me so deep that ever since that day, I have never touched a Sudoku puzzle again ever. Nowadays, if I ever get the urge to look at one, my immediate reaction is “I hope have I saved his original Excel file somewhere”.
The good news is I found him to be as sharp as ever. So, as long as I do not lose his phone number, I am sure I can ask him to recreate the file again 🙂