2 September 2021

Here is a Renaissance Polymath, if I have ever seen one

During my birthday call to Pinaki in July, we had agreed to meet up whenever we were going to be in the same city. We have way too many interests to talk about. Our interests do not necessarily overlap but we have one common interest – and that is to have a lot of interests.

I have a very vague memory of how I met this gentleman first. We were in the same company and he reminded me that my classmate from first grade – Pratik Pal – had put us together twenty years back. But what excited me most about Pinaki is all the other things he has done outside of work.

He is a mountain climber (the only person I know who made it to Camp 2 in Mt. Everest at 22,000 feet), motorcyclist (just returned form a 300 mile trip) and a marathon runner.

He joined in a Sitar class together with his young daughter five years back. Like the experience of Tom Vanderbilt in his book “Beginners”, Pinaki’s daughter too quit soon. But he continues to learn and play the sitar to this day. Additionally, he haas learnt singing (again, like Tom in that book) and, he does “natok” (Bengali word for stage drama).

He is also a bit of a photographer and an avid reader.

We had some great discussions sitting out in the cold in the middle of a street in Yerba Buena district over some hot breakfast. The topics mostly swirled around the meaning of a true pursuit of happiness in life. And how we often run the risk of losing the bigger plot.

Eventually I had to leave for my office meetings. But, I have to come back and finish up the discussions we got started on.

1 September 2021

Catching up with the Deys

After a full day of meetings in downtown, made a quick dash to Menlo Park to check in on a friend from the early 1970s. Jayanta and I share a unique connection. While we were one grade apart, we always studied in exactly the same schools!

We went to Benachity Junior High School and then to St. Xavier’s, Durgapur and then to Narendrapur Ramakrishna Mission and finally to IIT- Madras!

It was good to see Chitra-masi, Amita and Onamika too!!

28 August 2021

First time there was no reminder on his birthday!

Every Aug 28, at about 9AM my time – 6:30PM his, the following conversation would happen:

“Dad, it is your birthday today, right?”

He would fumble for a few seconds like something hit him from the left field… “Today is my birthday???”. And then he would give up and after clearing his throat loudly ask my mom over the sound of hissing oil of something being fried in the kitchen.

“Koi sunchho? Aajkey aamaar jonmodin?” (“Can you hear me? Is it my birthday today?”).

Mom would diligently do the math – August. 28th. Yes, that has to be his birthday!!

After establishing that it was indeed his birthday, I would then wish him. At which point, he would usually come back with some variant of the same message – “At my age, nobody celebrates birthdays. I am waiting for my final day.”

A few more minutes of conversation later, I would talk to my mom and then the next phase of the drama would start.

I would call my sister downstairs and remind her that it is dad’s birthday. She would excitedly scream at everybody and sundry how did everybody forget that. My niece – always the quiet person who gets things done – would in the meanwhile put in an order for a cake.

Then would be a call to my brother. Who undoubtedly would be pacing up and down at his house. (That is what he does when he does nothing else. Or anything for that matter). He would, in a matter of fact way, register what I just said and then move on!! Not before I would tell him to ask the nephews to call up dadu (grandpa).

Usually the whole thing would end by me receiving a WhatsApp message from my niece – with some pictures of dad reluctantly eating a cake surrounded by smiling mom and sister’s family.

This year too, I had to remind my sister’s family and my brother’s family.

There was no picture of cake at the end, however!

23 August 2021

Poignant memory of my father in law!!

Three years back, on this day, in the middle of a company acquisition in Chicago, I got the news that my father in law had transitioned. Rushed back to Atlanta immediately to pack off Sharmila on the first flight to India.

The first message that hit my inbox today was from my mother in law. It was a picture she sent on Whatsapp. She had decorated his picture with flowers and offered all the Bengali sweets (my father in law was not too much into sweets – but you cannot worship anything in Bengali without sweets) and his favorite “cha-biskoot” (tea and crackers).

The biggest change in these three years? My mother in law has mastered modern technology!! She is the same person that used to be deathly afraid of holding an iPad because it used to go “edik odik” (topsy turvy) if she moved!!

Miss the big guy though…

21 August 2021

This has to be some kind of a sign from above!

“Is this what you do full time?”
“No. I usually drive Lyft or Uber during the weekends”
“What do you do during the week?”
“Oh! I take care of a business we have and the kids”

“What would you like to do when you grow up?”, I pressed on with my Lyft driver Osman
“I want to work in startups. Do you know how I can join a startup?”
“Do you know a lot of coding?”
“No, I can learn though. I also know foreign languages – Russian, Turkish… can that help?

“Wait a minute. You know Russian and Turkish? Going by your name, are you Turkish?”
“No”.
“Where are you from?”
“Guess.”
“I do not know – going by the first name – some place in the middle east?”

“I am from Azerbaijan!”
“AZERBAIJAN?” I said so loudly that he turned back while driving to check what just happened.
“Yes”
“Well, I think you are not going to believe me. But you are only the second person I have ever met from Azerbaijan. And the first one was just a couple of weeks back!”
“Really? In Atlanta? There are only four Azerbaijani families in Atlanta.”
“No, in Providence, Rhode Island. I was there with my daughter. We went to a restaurant by the river. And the lady who ushered us in said she was from Azerbaijan. I remember her name was Shams.”
Then after checking my phone, I went on… “Shams Aliyeva is the full name”
“Yes. That is an Azerbaijani name.”

I told him how I learnt a lot about the country from her. Before that, I had heard about the country for the first time in my third grade while reading Tintin (The Crab with the Golden Claws) back in 1975. And that while I have never been to Azerbaijan, I had once flown over it while going from Istanbul to Bishkek.

“What were you doing in Bishkek?”
“Well, my friend Roger and I were on an adventure trip to Mongolia”
“You should now visit my country.”
“I will absolutely do so. In fact, that is what I was telling Shams the other day too!”
“You will love Baku, the Caspian Sea, the beaches and the mountains!”
“Well, I met two of you in a matter of weeks. That is a sign to me already!”

“But do not go to Armenia and then to my country. We have a difficult relationship.”
“I know. Like India and Pakistan.”
“Exactly”, he said while nodding his head.

By this time I had to get off at my motorbike shop where it had gone for servicing. Before getting off, Osman and I took a picture and agreed to grab a coffee in Cumming, GA sometime!!

Roger, if you are reading this, let’s do a quick trip to Azerbaijan some time. Anybody else cares to join?

19 August 2021

Carving out his own future

Tom Aliff!! I remember the first day I met him – back in July of 2009. I am fairly sure he was still in his twenties. What had struck me was his sheer intellect, executive presence and that constant smile!! I learnt a lot about Analytics from him in the next 4 or 5 years.

But the most exciting part of him is his personal life. In many ways, his is the model I hope to emulate some day. He has varied interests and he keeps up with them. He is a super fast marathon runner. In fact, he was one of the three people who encouraged me to go do my own marathon. I remember taking a lot of tips on shoes and stretching.

He is a skateboarder!! And I am trying to do that myself! I need to get him to teach me that too.

Now he has his own band!!

Last April, he and I had a Facebook exchange to meet after we were all vaccinated and all. We did get that done this week.

Of course, when I am with Tom, there is always one more thing to learn. This time I got to know about Meditation – specifically the type he does. “Positive Nostalgia”. I have to admit, I did not grasp the whole concept. He will admit, I was not too good at Analytics either!!

19 August 2021

Meeting Anand after over 32 years!

It almost rings strange to my ear to call him “Anand”. Throughout my Computer Science days in IIT-Chennai, we always knew him as “Sivudu”. I have no idea how he got that name – perhaps it had something to do with his last name – Sivasubramaniam. Nevertheless, like many things from college days, that name stuck!

He left for the USA to pursue higher studies in 1989. Coincidentally, he landed up in Atlanta at that time (Georgia Tech) – which has been our home for the last 14 years now. I proceeded to do MBA in India.

While we have talked a couple of times (at least on his birthdays), I had not seen him over the years. Then one day, he wrote to me that he would be in Atlanta – dropping his son at his own alma mater!

That opened up the opportunity to get to see him. And what a meeting it was!

Rarely – and I mean very rarely – have I seen anybody straddle the academia and corporate life as well as Anand has. Sure, there are professors who start their own company and all that. But to adapt to a different culture and environment of an existing corporation – that too as huge as TCS (about half a million employees?) and succeed there while being a professor in a renowned school (Penn State) is not something for the feeble of the heart.

In fact, Anand talked about how he came very close to giving up once and then managed to prevail and succeed. Today, he splits his time between India and USA – teaching in Penn State and running a large Research Institute in TCS.

That was an amazing story.

“So, Anand, what have you learnt in life?”

“The virtues of patience,” he said. And then thoughtfully added…

“Ignore the small stuff”.

Now, of course, my challenge will be to figure out which are the big stuff and which are the small stuff in life. Maybe we can talk about that when he comes to Atlanta next to visit his son!