6 January 2026

My new friend in Uruguay

As is my wont, I had found an Indian restaurant in the city I was visiting and headed there. Instead of taking an Uber from Mercado de Puerto, I decided to walk it up through Ciudad Vieja and along the long promenade on the Rio de La Plata. As a result, by the time I reached the restaurant – about an hour and fifteen minutes later – I had worked up quite an appetite.

There was nobody inside. I was afraid they might be closed. Everything in the market seemed to be mostly closed. Apparently, I had landed on Children’s Day in Uruguay. A very friendly lady came up and said something to me in Spanish.

In Uruguay, English is barely spoken. All menus, signs, and instructions are in Spanish.

“No habla español. ¿Hablas Englsh?” I tried my best.
“Sure. Please come in.”

That was a big relief. I finally found somebody who could speak English. As I mentioned, there was nobody else in the restaurant. That gave me an opportunity to get to know Annie and learn about her life story.

“Were you born and brought up in Montevideo?”
“No. I am from Venezuela. And you?”
“I am from Atlanta. In the US”

That could have become awkward given the current geopolitical tensions between the USA and Venezuela. But it turned out I didn’t have to worry about anything.

“Where in Venezuela? I have not been to Venezuela, but I have been to your neighboring country, Guyana.”
“Not too far from there, actually – Bolivar.”
“So, how did you end up in Montevideo?”
“Well, I got my degree as a doctor in Venezuela…”

“Wait a minute,” I interrupted her. A doctor waiting tables did not fit my picture of the world.
“… you are a medical doctor?”

“Yes. And so is my husband.”
“So, why are you working here?”

Fascinating story. The economic situation was so bad in Venezuela that they got out of there two years ago. Came to Uruguay since it is easier to get a residency. However, there are many doctors in Uruguay. Plus, the country is very small. Only about 3.5 million people. 1.5 million in Montevideo, and the rest are strewn all over the vast country.

“So, your degree is valid here?”
“Yes”
“But you get no patients?”
“Yes. There are so many doctors already.”
“Wow! Same thing with your husband?”
“Yes”

“So, how did you meet your husband?”
Annie got animated at this question. “I have a very interesting story. Do you want to hear it?”

“Of course!” I said, looking around and finding no food at the table nor any guests for her to attend to.

It was an incredible story of coincidence. She and her husband, Johny, worked at the same hospital but did not know each other. It was a case of a particular patient that both of them had to tend to separately. Ultimately, it was the patient who brought them together. Unfortunately, the patient eventually died of the ailment. But their relationship held ground!

A bell rang. My food was ready.

At the same time, a couple walked in. Seemed local, based on how they ordered without even looking at the menu.

Everything said and done, Facebook contacts exchanged, I finally took leave.

“Next time, bring your family.”
“Sure. I would like to meet Johny too.”

And that was how yet another stranger became a friend. Hopefully, the birthday calls will keep the contacts going, and one fine day, you never know… maybe we will all meet each other again! Life can work in very strange ways.

31 December 2025

“Signal Aasche”!

A hallmark of my time with the nephew is how much we laugh together. This morning, he woke up late and sat down next to me on the sofa. I looked at him and his outstretched tufts of hair and commented “choolta khara hoye gechhe” (your hair has risen up!).

“Hmmm… signal aasche!!” (yes, I am receiving signal!!), he quipped!

28 December 2025

Accepting finiteness is terribly hard

Dropping Tuey and Natasha off at their condo tonight in New York, I realized that this is probably the last time for me. Our annual ritual is coming to an end. The daughter is growing up. She has her own place, her own life, and her own commitments. This would, unfortunately, mean that Tuey’s annual stays with us in Atlanta are now in the reverse mirror.

In fairness, driving mindlessly for thousands of miles twice in a month is nobody’s sense of fun. Neither is the art of covering up the rental car with all sorts of sheets so that poor Tuey’s prolific hair shedding will not invoke steep rental car fines.

But, in many ways, that *was* the fun. Fourteen hours of virtually no conversation with a Gen Z daughter, other than the initial 30 minutes of spitting out all the drama with her friends in her life. The quiet drive was punctuated by stops at Starbucks and Chick-fil-A, downing more cappuccinos and spicy chicken sandwiches than you could shake a stick at. And that occasional whimpering from the rear seat, letting everybody know that he could do with some petting. But for that, he would either sleep or endlessly look outside. Only to come to life at the stops, sniffing at stuff all over the lot like he was born to sniff up everything in rest stops.

I will miss the routine… the weekend before Thanksgiving meant a quick flight to New York, then two days driving down to Atlanta with the daughter and the dog. The weekend after Christmas meant doing the reverse. In between, the daughter would go back to New York, and Tuey would be in Atlanta.

A new homeostasis will settle down in my routine. No more starting the vacuum cleaner at 5 AM to clear the floor of his hair, no more morning walk together before anybody could wake up, and no more being greeted at the top of the stairs with his head cocked to his right as I would emerge from the stairwell!

Finiteness is hard to accept!

Perhaps we should consider moving closer to him for one month each year to accommodate his constraints?

28 December 2025

An intersection point on the road

Had finished two days of driving and just settled Natasha and Tuey back at their home. Driving out of New York City, I called Manoj to see if he might be available for a drink. It was a Sunday evening and I was not very hopeful.

But he jumped at the suggestion and we made a dinner out of it. Saw Manoj after a bit more than 20 years. There was so much of life to catch up on!!

Perfect evening to undo the tiredness of long drives!!