Meeting Juan again at the same spot where we met some 15 years ago!
Throwback to the past
Sharmila is in India. I had already given Jay Jay a long walk. Needed a place to settle down and read my new book. Went to good old Miltons Cuisines where Sharmila and I were an every Sunday evening feature at the bar making friends with the folks behind the bar and watching the Sunday night football game. Struck a life long friendship with so many of the staff there.
I was not sure what to expect. I had not been there for 7-8 years.
I need not have worried. Nothing has changed! The bar, the furniture, the hospitality is just like it was before. Met Victoria who has been there ever since the restaurant opened.
Also made a few new friends – Eva (in the picture and who went to the same high school as my two daughters), Shelby, Shawna and Daniella to name a few. Best part was Daniella saying “Did you say Raj? I have heard your name from Ben and Roy.” That brought back memories of two young gentlemen from those days.
Another funny incident… Eva and I were talking about her high school. When she suddenly said – “Our cleaner Juan talks about a friend he has whose kids were in Cambridge too!”.
Imagine her surprise when I said – “I am that friend!! He has been cleaning our house for 15 years now!!”
Lovely evening!
I watched the first half of the football game, chatted with Juan for some time (he came out from his cleaning duties), shut the bar down and the valet came in and gave me my keys saying it was time for him to go.
EXACTLY like it used to be those days!

Tried to get the Halloween spirit going today
Reached another milestone on Pegasus
Book Review: Obliquity by John Kay
This is one of those books that totally gets me. I cannot possibly overemphasize the importance of reading this book if you are a leader of any kind – business, community, politics or even of your own household. The book, at least for me, articulates eloquently the struggle I have had with simplistic solutions I hear in business world on how to solve problems – “right talent” often being suggested as the panacea. This book – along with a cursory reading of a book like The Drunkards Walk should give a sobering thought to anybody who wants to be a leader.
By the way, I got to know about this book while listening to a Ted Talk by Rory Sutherland. Another guy with some great concepts
I am quoting a few paragraphs together from the book as is but there is simply no substitute to reading the book. And if you do read the book, call me. Would love to discuss your thoughts.
Excerpts:
The success of the physical sciences has encouraged us to believe there might be a science of decision making. All kinds of problems in our business and our financial lives, in the political and personal spheres, could then be managed objectively. Such a scientific procedure would, if done carefully enough, lead every conscientious person to the same answer. As a result, both political and personal disputes could be resolved by applying evidence and rational discourse. The distinction of the great business leader, the measure of financial acumen, would rest only in the ability to arrive at the right answer faster than other people.
There is no such science, and there never will be. Our objectives are typically imprecise and multifaceted; they change as we work toward them, as they should. Our decisions depend on the responses of others and on what we anticipate those responses will be. The world is complex and imperfectly understood, and it always will be.
We do not solve problems in the way the concept of decision science implies, because we can’t. The achievement of the great statesman is not to reach the best decision fastest but to mediate effectively among competing views and values. The achievement of the successful business leader is not to foresee the future accurately but to continuously match the capabilities of the firm to the changing market. The test of financial acumen, as described by Buffett and Soros, is to navigate successfully through irresolvable uncertainties.
Mostly, we solve problems obliquely. Our approaches are iterative and adaptive. We make our choices from a limited range of options. Our knowledge of the relevant information, and of what information is relevant, is imperfect. Different people will form different judgments in the same situation, not just because they have different objectives but because they observe different options, select different information and assess that information differently; and even with hindsight it will often not be possible to say who was right and who was wrong. In a necessarily uncertain world, a good decision doesn’t necessarily lead to a good outcome, and a good outcome doesn’t necessarily imply a good decision or a capable decision maker. The notion of a best solution may itself be misconceived. The skill of problem solving frequently lies in the interpretation and reinterpretation of high-level objectives.
There is nothing wrong with using trust as a basis for decision. Finding people you can trust, or establishing trusting relationships with them, is the most effective—often the only effective—means of achieving the delegation that is necessary to accomplish objectives and goals in large organizations. Successful decentralization relies on the transmission of high-level objectives, not just intermediate goals and basic actions, to the agents who will implement them. This is a world apart from principal-agent models that treat social organizations as mechanical systems in which agents respond to the stimuli that incentive structures impose.
Obliquity is the best approach whenever complex systems evolve in an uncertain environment and whenever the effect of our actions depends on the ways in which others respond to them. There is a role for carrots and sticks, but to rely on carrots and sticks alone is effective only when we employ donkeys and we are sure exactly what we want the donkeys to do. Directness is only appropriate when the environment is stable, objectives are one-dimensional and transparent and it is possible to determine when and whether goals have been achieved. The world of politics and business today is afflicted by many hedgehogs, men and women who mistakenly believe the world is like that.









