30 December 2014

Be different. Make a difference.

(Okay, maybe I did review my year seriously, unlike Facebook 🙂 )

Many years back, my dear wife had publicly called me “weird”. Without any complaint, I decided that, that is exactly what I wanted to be. Thereby proving her words correct. (I think there is a self recursion call there somewhere).

Anyways, the idea has been to “Be Different. Make a Difference.”

So let’s see how weird have I been this year…. the making of a difference is questionable though

1. Prepared my family and my boss (the latter was far tougher) that I would (once again) quit my cushy job to take a year off. And just when we had all my plans and financials lined up and had reached alignment with family and boss, ditched the whole plan. To take a role that I have never performed, in an industry that I did not even know how to spell, for a class of owners that I had only heard very tough stories about. I figured if it was worth taking a risk, it was when the entire dice is loaded against you. At least that way, in the small likelihood that I succeed, I would prove something to myself. If not, my Plan A to take a year off was not that bad, at all 🙂

2. Walked up to way too many strangers at bars and airports asking them “What is your life story?”. Many brushed me aside. But those that did not, left with incredibly inspiring and valuable lessons for me. Someday, when I grow up, I want to be as resolute as them. Till then, I am going to at least collect the stories.

3. Somewhere, I decided, I needed to work at a bar. (BTW, a CEO working at a bar for relaxation, even my wife agrees, is the weirdest thing she has ever heard of). Just to mix drinks. For whatever reason, this completely weird impulse has become a big passion for me. From a guy who did not know the difference between gin and vodka, I can actually tell you what the three coffee beans that you set on fire in sambuca stand for. Let me put it this way. My year end gifts from both the young daughters were bar items. And they are not even allowed to sit at a bar 🙂

4. Against everybody’s counsel – my wife’s, my in-laws’ and my brother-in-law’s – I managed to coax my FIL and MIL to come to the USA. In our house, I was the one who could not wait to come back from office and take them out. Admittedly, mostly for drinks 🙂 Hey, they did not complain!! While they were here, I even managed to construct the family tree on my wife’s side four generations back through our conversations!! And found out that one of our dear friends in Dallas is actually a relative of mine!! Go, figure!!

5. The weirdest of them all – kept on digging up family and friends from my past and visiting them….From the gentleman who used to round up the kids in the neighborhood and organize us to play 35 years back, to discovering my first friend of life from 43 years back to walking up to somebody’s house and greeting the surprised lady saying “You won’t remember me but you sat next to me in second grade”!!

And now where I could have been weirder…

1. For all the running I did, I never did something weird or different from others. I need to think of a goal.

2. For all the humor I love, I never did something weird or different this year. Maybe I should go back to performing on stage.

3. There are many other things I love – playing the tabla, listening to qawwalis, taking random pictures…. but never did anything to a level of weirdness that would make them memorable….

Maybe I should think about setting some more really weird goals for the new year…

Any ideas? They have to be weird for a guy who is soon going to be 48.
Growing old for me is inevitable. Growing up, though, I would like to keep optional.

Posted December 30, 2014 by Rajib Roy in category "Musings


  1. By Soumya Bhattacharyya on

    Great post. You are living an awesomely different life, which is not mainstream. Got to admit I am having great fun doing #5. It has almost become an addiction.

  2. By Revathi Shivakumar on

    Love the post! What would be nicely weird (have to use the weird word to entice you!) is if u made a trip to the various cities in India to catch up with us all!

  3. By Milind Mehere on

    1. Bhag Rajib Bhag: Run a marathon or half (depending on your knees) every quarter where you beat your numbers (to celebrate) or miss (to motivate) but pick one
    2. Perform in the Big Apple: A friend performs at Carolinas at Broadway in NYC, try it!
    3. Wah Taj Boleyay: Get Zakir to perform at your 50th then perform a juggalbandi with him. Or be an accompanying artist to Indian classical musicians passing via Atlanta

  4. By Subho Nath on

    Let’s perform weird job (for an CEO) for a day like playing guitar (may be Tabla) in Piedmont park, be an UPS guy, be a server at Varsity, be a teacher at Elemantary School, be a wedding planner and there are many more we can share when running for the 1st time with you in year 2015. Happy New Year!

  5. By Sibapriya Dasgupta on

    There are umpteen number of things you can do and I would like to enumerate a few: (1) Wear a wig/ hair weaving ( not transplant) and see the difference


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