16 August 2014

The difficult, we do today. The impossible, will take a little more time.

It was Friday evening. Designated day to go out for a drink with my FIL. There was one problem though. He was barely five days and change into his surgery to fix his broken hip. In those five days, he had already gotten himself to got up and walk with a walker. A walker is not ideal for long distances. No problem. A few Google searches and phone calls later, I was back home with a rented wheelchair.

Over all protestations of my mother in law, very soon, Sharmila and myself were at our favorite Indian bar with the inlaws. We sat outside and had a delightful time. Presently Amitesh, Anusuya, Mrinalda and Seemitadi joined us to make it a perfect octet.

After a wonderful evening together, we came back home. Then I asked my FIL – “Dekhun, gelen boley koto bhalo laaglo” (See, it was a good thing you went. You had such a great time). He had a memorable response. “Bhalo laga? Amar to mon kharap hoye gelo seshe. Eder moton bhaari shundor shundor lok desh-e giye kothay paabo?” (Had a great time? I am feeling really sad now. Where am I going to get such wonderful people – referring to our guests for the evening – when I go back home?)

Like his guests, I am amazed that barely five days after a hip surgery he is out and about and sipping wine with the rest of us sitting outside a bar….

Seems like he truly lives up to what my good friend Larry Mason had advised me once – “The difficult, we do today. The impossible, will take a little more time”!

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15 August 2014

Aggressive acquisition by Delta, reported by Roy-ters

Vice President Kerry was stranded in Hawaii when Air Force Two was grounded for mechanical problems.

It has now been revealed that in a further sign of consolidation of airlines, Delta had actually acquired Air Force One and Two last year 🙂 Vice President Kerry was given a $300 voucher that he can use anytime in the next year as long as it was on Air Force Two 🙂

Jokes aside, the Veep was put on a commercial plane and he took it in his stride. When his staff informed him of they having moved him to an United Airlines flight, apparently he immediately responded “Finally, some frequent flier miles!!!”.

By the way, did you know Air Force Two or for that matter Air Force One is not a particular plane? Any US Air Force aircraft used by the President or the VP is automatically designated Air Force One or Two.

14 August 2014

I certainly needed the perspective…

Long day. Meetings with customers all over the DC area. And then I had to be in Philly for tomorrow’s meetings. I just drove up for a clean three hours. All thru the day, I have been worried about my father in law who is going thru the rehabilitation process at home after his hip surgery. I probably have called up Sharmila to check on them to a point that she is irritated.

I walked into downtown Philly Marriott completely tired and sleepy and as I was checking in, I noticed that the whole hotel was buzzing with activities. Not too uncommon for a downtown big Marriott. What was uncommon is the number of people milling around in wheelchairs.

I was not too sure what to make of it. But as I went into the elevator to take me to my floor, I ran into one more of the wheelchair folks. So I asked him if he was there an event. I learnt that he was there for the Annual Disabled Veterans’ sporting event. First, I had no idea there was such an event. Second, I was not going to bed then and there. I needed to learn more.

So, I changed into my casuals and came down. And started interviewing all the folks in wheelchairs. And asked them if it was okay to put their pictures on my blogsite. To the person, they all said Yes. But more importantly, they asked after my family, my daughters and my life story.

Some of the life stories I heard from these Iraq, Afghanistan and even Vietnam and Korean War Veterans are to truly die for. For example, take the two guys in the top picture. They found out a few events back that they grew up in the same neighborhood in Arkansas. As they put it “we knew common folks when we were still walking”. WOW!!! “Still Walking” can be a phase in life….. That is the thought that was going thru my mind.

Going back to them again, ever since, every event they make it a point to find each other and spend some endless hours together. It is not always easy. A trip like this costs them $2100 per person. They rely a lot on VA and private sponsorship. Next year this event is in Dallas. Which is where my daughters were born. I owe a lot of my happiness in life to that place and this country. So, I figured, I might as well sponsor both of them for next year to meet in Dallas.

Some of the words people spoke were to be heard to be believed. That Steelers fan in yellow shirt in the bottom picture? He was the most talkative of them all. We debated NFL for some time. But the best thing he told me – “I look at many people and they are in worse shape than me. I am doing good compared to them”. And I am like “Oh! God! And here I am. Worried about what I am not. Than being happy about what I am”….

And so on… For the next forty five minutes I went around talking to people and taking their pictures. Finally, I plonked down at the bar ordered a drink and started to think about what I learnt today. And write it up before I forget it….

Can’t wait to go back home tomorrow night and tell this story to my father in law…

Life is never about “what you have”. But what you “make of whatever little you have”. And yet we spend so much of our time and money to “have more”….

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13 August 2014

My famous friends have a poor opinion of me :-)

Also called “The three things I learned thru Robin William’s death”

Lesson 1.
Going thru the Facebook posts showing up on my timeline, I am convinced that my friends believe I suffer from Alzheimer’s. Even after “n” people have informed me of the unfortunate and untimely demise of the great stand up comedian, some of them multiple times I must say, that has not prevented the “n+1” person from re-informing me a few minutes later. Or “n+2” or “n+3” for that matter…. I know my Math friends are going “Dude. That is called Mathematical Induction”. However, unlike Mathematical Induction, the starting point of “n” is not very small. In fact, it is an unconscionably high number. I can only be concerned and grateful at the same time at their sensitivity to the condition I apparently suffer from.

Lesson 2.
Many of those reminders to me come in the shape and form of direct exhortation to Robin Williams to rest in peace or thanking him for all the laughs. I certainly hope Robin Williams is paying heed to my friends’ wishes but I have to admit that I did not realize he was going to check his Facebook page from his afterlife. To be honest, I did not even know that you are allowed to carry your smartphone to your afterlife. I need to remind myself to check into that data plan before I hit an advanced stage of my memory condition. But I am absolutely proud of myself that I am surrounded by friends who are Facebook friends with Robin Williams. Maybe there are a few degrees of separation here, but I feel I am justified to show off my very well-connected friends to every body else. Especially those riff raffs who did not know Robin Williams well enough to instruct him to rest in peace on their Facebook page.

Lesson 3.
Wait..
Dang it! What is the other lesson I was thinking of?
My God! Maybe my famous friends are right about that Alzheimer’s thing, after all!!!!

🙂