25 May 2014

“Why did you leave us, sir?”

There was just one more box to be packed as I cleaned out my office. My mind was going over the fond memories of seven years when I heard a gentle knock. Our newest intern was at the door. “You were doing so well, sir”, she said “why did you then decide to leave us?”.

I gathered my thoughts for a minute and replied softly “How else would I have realized how much I was appreciated here?”

24 May 2014

What if they think the same about me?

Sitting in the auditorium. In less than half an hour, I go on stage as the commencement speaker for Fulton Science Academy High School graduation ceremony. Looking around, I am much more nervous than the students or the organizers.

I keep telling my mind to imagine the audience as naked and my mind keeps telling me back “Oh! Yeah? What if they think the same about you?”. And I get even more nervous 🙂

20 May 2014

I wish you enough

“I wish you enough!”©
By Bob Perks
I never really thought that I’d spend as much time in airports as I do. I don’t know why. I always wanted to be famous and that would mean lots of travel. But I’m not famous, yet I do see more than my share of airports.

I love them and I hate them. I love them because of the people I get to watch. But they are also the same reason why I hate airports. It all comes down to “hello” and “goodbye.”I must have mentioned this a few times while writing my stories for you.

I have great difficulties with saying goodbye. Even as I write this I am experiencing that pounding sensation in my heart. If I am watching such a scene in a movie I am affected so much that I need to sit up and take a few deep breaths. So when faced with a challenge in my life I have been known to go to our local airport and watch people say goodbye. I figure nothing that is happening to me at the time could be as bad as having to say goodbye.

Watching people cling to each other, crying, and holding each other in that last embrace makes me appreciate what I have even more. Seeing them finally pull apart, extending their arms until the tips of their fingers are the last to let go, is an image that stays forefront in my mind throughout the day.

On one of my recent business trips, when I arrived at the counter to check in, the woman said, “How are you today?” I replied, “I am missing my wife already and I haven’t even said goodbye.”

She then looked at my ticket and began to ask, “How long will you…Oh, my God. You will only be gone three days!” We all laughed. My problem was I still had to say goodbye.

But I learn from goodbye moments, too.

Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, “I love you. I wish you enough.” She in turn said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy.”

They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?”

“Yes, I have,” I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.

So I knew what this man experiencing.

“Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?” I asked.

“I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral,” he said.

“When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, “I wish you enough.” May I ask what that means?”

He began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more.”When we said ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them,” he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he
were reciting it from memory.

“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish enough “Hello’s” to get you through the final “Goodbye.”

He then began to sob and walked away.

My friends, I wish you enough!

8 May 2014

Why I am skeptical about news media

It is all about the sensationalism. Unfortunately they cater to us – so obviously we buy this kind of news.

Checkout the online version of CNN and USA Today. There is a prominent news article of a cop in Texas who shot a 93-year old. I did not even open it after reading the headline.

I found on FB about a different cop incident. I searched on Google. Not a single hit came from CNN or USA Today. Here is the top link I got.

I really really wish I could get a little more coverage on these kind of news…

6 May 2014

School Alarm?

Ok, this one does not involve my inlaws, for a change 🙂

Some of you who know our house in Milton probably also realize that our property line backs into Summit Hill Elementary school – which is where Nikita goes. You cannot see the school from our house since there is a good five acres of forest in our property but you sure can hear all the commotion of a playground with kids in it during all hours. Which is, by the way, one of the best sounds you can hear in the mornings. The mind goes back to my own school days and the pure fun kids have on the play field with nary a worry.

You can then well understand my consternation when I heard a fire engine clanging from what seemed to be the direction of the school this morning. I tried to figure out whether it was one of the drills for the kids but the noise persisted for some time. With all the scary and unfortunate incidents in various schools, of course, the parent’s mind in me immediately got worried and started jumping to worst case scenarios. Illogical fears started creeping in. I remembered dropping Nikita in the morning and she was dressed smartly for the day – it was Career Day in her school. She was excited to be an Interior Designer and was carrying carpet pieces, measuring tape and such with her. I was feeling sorry if all that excitement got canceled due to whatever it is that had happened for which the fire engine had to be called.

I was anyways on my way out for a doctor’s appointment. I rerouted myself so as to drive on the road where her school is. I was totally relieved that there were no swarms of cop cars near the campus or road blocks. However, I also noticed a big fountain of water – it seemed like they were trying to douse something. Because of a small mound, I could not see any of the action – just the high water spout. The good news is that the water was being thrown AWAY from the school building. I figured out, in the worst case scenario, it is grass fire (although it is too early in the season) or a car on fire.

And so I drove on. At the next STOP sign, I saw an ambulance coming towards me (headed in the direction of the school) with the lights lit up! I could not help myself anymore. I panicked and called up Sharmila and asked her to call up the school to find out what was going on.

A few minutes later, Sharmila called back, extremely irritated. Evidently the folks at the front desk had a hearty laugh. In fact, they said “it is very cute that you were concerned”.

Turns out that the school had arranged for the local fire engine and emergency services to come and demo to the aspiring students on what a career in emergency services entails!!

Ha! Ha! I am so glad I made her call up the school 🙂